WRX selling practices? I said I'll buy for asking then turns around and sells to another after...

BarfolomewBarfolomew #worstWRXerMembers Posts: 1,213 ✭✭
Hey Guys! So I said I would buy some new balls for asking price today PMd for paypal addy....but he wasnt on and he responds half hour later but I was only on for 10 mins after.... I get home from gym and he sold them already. Now I have many years of forum experience softball/cars/camera etc... and normally the seller gives the buyer a reasonable amount of time to pay for them specially if they have good feedback like me.



Whats the etiquette on wrx cause I thought it wasnt cool. People dont just hang out online waiting hours for responses so gotta give people time to pay etc... when a price is agreed upon or says I'll take for asking.



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  • tuckmantuckman Members Posts: 1,096 ✭✭
    It always goes to the first one to pay.



    Always.



  • adizeroadizero Members Posts: 577
    I typically Let the seller know I only check my mail on the hour and will pay ASAP after receiving their payment address. Never had a sale go bad using multiple sites.
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  • ntwuscntwusc Members Posts: 126 ✭✭
    First one to pay gets the item. Flakes abound on this and other forums.
  • larciellarciel I play for eagle Members Posts: 2,200 ✭✭
    I feel your pain OP but if he sent you ppal address and he sold it an hour later then I have to side with the seller. Must be a hot item. You should've anticipate his reply anytime.
  • PALS-SSAPALS-SSA Posts: 279 ✭✭
    There are no rules here. It's ironic, since this game is supposed to be about honor and integrity. You'd think that telling someone that they have a deal would result in payment. Unfortunately, people back out all the time.
  • dcmidnightdcmidnight Marshals, BST Volunteer Mods Posts: 11,533 mod
    tuckman wrote:


    It always goes to the first one to pay.



    Always.




    Always.



    As someone who's bought/sold a lot on here, just telling a seller "I'll take it, send Paypal address" means nothing. I've had so many people back out in cases like that its not even funny. And usually it means letting other potential buyers walk away while you're waiting on the guy who eventually backs out on you.



    In this case it seems to me the seller responded in a reasonable amount of time. Dont mean to be too harsh but honestly OP, if you really wanted the item, you probably should have waited the extra twenty minutes to go to the gym.
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  • Sean2Sean2 #TheWRX (Callaway Trip) Members Posts: 30,826 ✭✭
    Barfolomew wrote:


    Hey Guys! So I said I would buy some new balls for asking price today PMd for paypal addy....but he wasnt on and he responds half hour later but I was only on for 10 mins after.... I get home from gym and he sold them already. Now I have many years of forum experience softball/cars/camera etc... and normally the seller gives the buyer a reasonable amount of time to pay for them specially if they have good feedback like me.



    Whats the etiquette on wrx cause I thought it wasnt cool. People dont just hang out online waiting hours for responses so gotta give people time to pay etc... when a price is agreed upon or says I'll take for asking.



    Thanks!




    If I am the seller, and there is an offer and acceptance, then I feel bound to honor that...even if a better offer comes up later.
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  • SBH9458SBH9458 Go Army! Beat Navy! Members Posts: 892 ✭✭
    Sean2 wrote:
    Barfolomew wrote:


    Hey Guys! So I said I would buy some new balls for asking price today PMd for paypal addy....but he wasnt on and he responds half hour later but I was only on for 10 mins after.... I get home from gym and he sold them already. Now I have many years of forum experience softball/cars/camera etc... and normally the seller gives the buyer a reasonable amount of time to pay for them specially if they have good feedback like me.



    Whats the etiquette on wrx cause I thought it wasnt cool. People dont just hang out online waiting hours for responses so gotta give people time to pay etc... when a price is agreed upon or says I'll take for asking.



    Thanks!




    If I am the seller, and there is an offer and acceptance, then I feel bound to honor that...even if a better offer comes up later.




    I agree, Sean. And have done just that. If I accept the offer, then I work with the buyer to receive payment within a reasonable amount of time. I’ve turned down higher offers after I’ve accepted an offer because I think that’s the right way to go, and what I’d hope for from a seller when I am the buyer. That said....if someone strings you along, selling to someone else after fair notice is also appropriate.
  • Sean2Sean2 #TheWRX (Callaway Trip) Members Posts: 30,826 ✭✭
    SBH9458 wrote:

    Sean2 wrote:
    Barfolomew wrote:


    Hey Guys! So I said I would buy some new balls for asking price today PMd for paypal addy....but he wasnt on and he responds half hour later but I was only on for 10 mins after.... I get home from gym and he sold them already. Now I have many years of forum experience softball/cars/camera etc... and normally the seller gives the buyer a reasonable amount of time to pay for them specially if they have good feedback like me.



    Whats the etiquette on wrx cause I thought it wasnt cool. People dont just hang out online waiting hours for responses so gotta give people time to pay etc... when a price is agreed upon or says I'll take for asking.



    Thanks!




    If I am the seller, and there is an offer and acceptance, then I feel bound to honor that...even if a better offer comes up later.




    I agree, Sean. And have done just that. If I accept the offer, then I work with the buyer to receive payment within a reasonable amount of time. I’ve turned down higher offers after I’ve accepted an offer because I think that’s the right way to go, and what I’d hope for from a seller when I am the buyer. That said....if someone strings you along, selling to someone else after fair notice is also appropriate.




    I think this is the best way to go about it.
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  • Carolina Golfer 2Carolina Golfer 2 Members Posts: 9,074 ✭✭
    edited Jul 13, 2018 #11
    I know from listing a few items recently. It's not uncommon to have multiple offers come in within a few moments of each other.



    I usually read them all before responding. If one is committing right there and asking for PayPal and others are counter offering or asking for more info. I'm going to accept the one that committed. Even if it came in within 20 to 30 minutes of others.



    I had someone get upset at me last year as he didn't believe he wasn't the first to reply.



    I of course reply to all inquiries letting them know I've accepted another offer.
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  • Bad9Bad9 Members Posts: 4,178 ✭✭
    From the sellers point of view you could have been one of the many flakes that populate the BST. There are probably dozens if not hundreds of examples given about how sellers have given their PP addy only to never hear from the "buyer" again. Unless he said pay me by 3pm and its yours and sold them to someone else at 2:30pm then I have no issue with him selling them to someone else. This is especially true, if I understand your timeline correctly, that he sent you his PP info and you saw his message(which he can see that you read) and then you went dark for some period of hours.
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  • nogamejamesnogamejames Members Posts: 1,170 ✭✭
    I will give the buyer and hour or so then go down the line. If it is a buyer with a decent feedback score I will give them a little longer, these stars should mean something. The flaking issue has gotten really bad the last couple years.
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    payerasjl wrote:


    no ticky, no laundry.




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  • wkuo3wkuo3 RELEASE Members Posts: 3,794 ClubWRX
    edited Jul 13, 2018 #16
    Not totally clear of the whole timeline of correspondence between the seller and the OP.



    The devil is in the detail....... and if the seller believe he treats everyone fairly, he should receive payment pronto after account info was exchanged. I had also had buyers said I'll take it and then never hear from them for a long time. A simple promise to buy does not bond the deal together. It's the sequence of communication and the execution of the promises from the communication counts.



    If the buyer said I'll take it, the seller should send payment info as soon as possible ( otherwise explained ), then the buyer should send funds immediately thereafter ( otherwise communicated to the seller of why not, and the seller could accept the delay or not ).



    As in most of the contractual dispute rules in the past, any notices from either of the parties changes the the body of the whole contract....including past agreement and such. Keep it simple stupid and keep it clear.

    Never assume anything unless clarified by both sides.



    I will take it.......pp sent... payment sent , thx...... payment received thx.....tracking #......received thx.....
  • joekellijoekelli A member of the exclusive "Kingdom 14" Posts: 2,615 ✭✭
    Sounds kind of messed up. If someone has agreed to buy I will put Sale pending on the thread and then give them some time to pay. If no payment I will send a PM and give them a chance to respond. If they do not respond in an hour or two I will then offer to the next in line.



    I understand that some people have jobs that they can not be online during the day. But I must say if you are one of those people you need to state that when you agree to purchase. Just put in your message that you do want the item but can not get back on line until x:xx time to make the payment. I think most sellers would be cool with that?!
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  • Albatross85Albatross85 Tiger is the GOAT St. Louis, MOMembers Posts: 2,830 ✭✭
    First to pay gets it. Period. No reason to get butthurt. Why would a seller risk losing a sale if someone doesnt pay? Once an ad gets to the 2nd page on bst, it's less likely to sell.
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  • GoIrish17GoIrish17 Members Posts: 5,530 ✭✭
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  • magnus7319magnus7319 A hungry dog hunts best - Lee Trevino Members Posts: 2,166 ✭✭
    First to pay. Always. Dozens and dozens of times I've had the "I'll take it - what's your paypal?"



    Typically if I'm buying something, and send someone a message, I'll try to be online, or on mobile, refreshing the PM pretty often until I get a reply.



    Unfortunately, as a seller, you just don't know who will be the guy who gets the paypal address and sits on it or who sends payment immediately.
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  • Damenace613Damenace613 Sunny San DiegoClubWRX Posts: 608 ClubWRX
    I was a potential buyer this week where the seller sent out the PayPal to multiple folks and I was a split second too slow. Was I bummed? A little, but he refunded the funds right away and we moved on.



    A while back I was in the similar situation where I was the seller and there were multiple buyers. The first person who said "I'll take it!" didn't pay first so it was sold to someone else. They then proceeded to leave me negative feedback on my profile. I was able to dispute with the mods and it was removed. It's definitely "first to pay" in my book.
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  • justincredible04justincredible04 Justincase1004 Posts: 2,204
    First to pay is always that answer...



    However, there was one deal that was super hot and I swear that I responded within less than a minute of it posting one time and the seller said it was already sold...I'm still pretty skeptical about that one. I think at the risk of sounding like he made a mistake with pricing, he ended up just saying it was sold. Oh well.
  • justincredible04justincredible04 Justincase1004 Posts: 2,204


    I was a potential buyer this week where the seller sent out the PayPal to multiple folks and I was a split second too slow. Was I bummed? A little, but he refunded the funds right away and we moved on.



    A while back I was in the similar situation where I was the seller and there were multiple buyers. The first person who said "I'll take it!" didn't pay first so it was sold to someone else. They then proceeded to leave me negative feedback on my profile. I was able to dispute with the mods and it was removed. It's definitely "first to pay" in my book.




    Dang, that's pretty lame. It's like if someone says they'll take it and waffles...and then gets mad at the seller for not holding their item wants to leave negative feedback? For what? No transaction took place. If I could leave negative feedback for all the WTB posts I respond to with exact specs and price negotiations that "did not" take place I'd run out of negative feedback to leave lol.
  • Lord HelmetLord Helmet Members Posts: 8,623 ✭✭
    I always put in my ads "will not hold, first to pay gets item" and that was done since when I first started listing items I would get the "I'll take it whats paypal - then crickets". I would note in my ad "pending sale" as well.



    I even reached out to a few sellers with tons of feedback to get their opinion on this. The consensus was to take the approach of not holding and selling to the first person who pays.



    Ive been on the short end as well, paying for an item but someone beat me to it. I was refunded.



    Ive had to refund when I get payment from 2 parties. I offer an apology and explanation to the person I am refunding.



    OP, if you wanted the item that bad, you gotta hang around the PC and see the deal thru. Thats the only way. Flakes have made it that way.
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    A while back I was in the similar situation where I was the seller and there were multiple buyers. The first person who said "I'll take it!" didn't pay first so it was sold to someone else. They then proceeded to leave me negative feedback on my profile. I was able to dispute with the mods and it was removed. It's definitely "first to pay" in my book.




    Lame. Glad you got it sorted out.
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  • Adbeach321Adbeach321 Members Posts: 145 ✭✭
    First to pay. I got burnt by this once as well, sucks but it's the fairest way.
  • magnus7319magnus7319 A hungry dog hunts best - Lee Trevino Members Posts: 2,166 ✭✭


    I always put in my ads "will not hold, first to pay gets item" and that was done since when I first started listing items I would get the "I'll take it whats paypal - then crickets". I would note in my ad "pending sale" as well.



    I even reached out to a few sellers with tons of feedback to get their opinion on this. The consensus was to take the approach of not holding and selling to the first person who pays.



    Ive been on the short end as well, paying for an item but someone beat me to it. I was refunded.



    Ive had to refund when I get payment from 2 parties. I offer an apology and explanation to the person I am refunding.



    OP, if you wanted the item that bad, you gotta hang around the PC and see the deal thru. Thats the only way. Flakes have made it that way.




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  • Damenace613Damenace613 Sunny San DiegoClubWRX Posts: 608 ClubWRX





    A while back I was in the similar situation where I was the seller and there were multiple buyers. The first person who said "I'll take it!" didn't pay first so it was sold to someone else. They then proceeded to leave me negative feedback on my profile. I was able to dispute with the mods and it was removed. It's definitely "first to pay" in my book.




    Lame. Glad you got it sorted out.




    Yeah, I was being courtesy because he gifted the payment. I still have my original message. For a fun read from March 2017:



    (Name removed), I'm surprised that you would provide negative feedback. You are fairly new to this forum but it's always been first to pay not first to message. There are too many flakes that say they want it but never end up paying. I also gave you valuable advice in terms of gifting payment. I could've kept the payment because you theoretically gave me cash for no reason but I was honest enough to send you the payment back immediately. You can look at my previous feedback that I handle all transactions as if I were on the other side. I've reported the feedback to get it removed so we'll see what feedback is given.
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  • cadman88cadman88 Advanced Member Buffalo / Rochester, NYMembers Posts: 2,338 ✭✭
    Maybe my thinking is wrong, but if I'm selling something I don't put my PayPal information on the listing, I just don't like too. But if I have a couple of people asking to purchase an item, I will always go by who sent the first PM.. and I will tell the second one there is one person in front of them, and that I have given the first person notice there is another party interested and state a time line that the first person has remaining to send funds. I guess I can understand the "first to pay" thinking, but I don't find it too taxing to send all parties interested a message where they stand.
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  • alfiealfie Members Posts: 1,413 ✭✭
    tuckman wrote:


    It always goes to the first one to pay.



    Always.




    ^^^ This! Whether it's right or not, unfortunatelly it seems that's the standard rule, specially online... ^^^
  • alfiealfie Members Posts: 1,413 ✭✭
    cadman88 wrote:


    Maybe my thinking is wrong, but if I'm selling something I don't put my PayPal information on the listing, I just don't like too. But if I have a couple of people asking to purchase an item, I will always go by who sent the first PM.. and I will tell the second one there is one person in front of them, and that I have given the first person notice there is another party interested and state a time line that the first person has remaining to send funds. I guess I can understand the "first to pay" thinking, but I don't find it too taxing to send all parties interested a message where they stand.




    Ok... good argument there...
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