Ugly divorce

Carl Spackler3Carl Spackler3 Members Posts: 924 ✭✭
Well it just had to be done, no body’s fault really.... these things not you it’s me......

Had to tell my playing partner it’s over. We played our last round, went the bar, I looked long into his eyes and told him. You’re a great guy but we can’t play golf together anymore. There were lots of emotion but the bandaid needed to be ripped off. I told him life is too short for 5 hr rounds lining up 8” puts. Told him I deserve not having to watch his six practice swings, the constant ball searching, the endless parade of people I have to let play through. I had to tell him that I’m getting older and rounds were passing me by. After some discussion of joint custody of the beer cooler and the alignment sticks, we parted quietly into the dark. I hope there’s someone out there for me
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  • lawsonmanlawsonman Members Posts: 5,234 ✭✭
    At least it doesn't sound like there were any kids.
    Welcome to where dumb opinions are better than no opinion. :)

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  • tokeybtokeyb Gonna get better OmahaClubWRX Posts: 358 ClubWRX
    People move in different directions. Life is definitely too short for that sh*t. Highly recommend lots of flirting, one round stands, and short term dalliances before committing.
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  • DavePelz4DavePelz4 A golf course in the Chicago area.ClubWRX Posts: 24,309 ClubWRX
    Best thing to do is to jump back in the deep end and find a new love.
  • Big BenBig Ben Members Posts: 8,972 ✭✭
    edited Nov 18, 2018 #5
    Don’t let a divorce dictate who you are. It’s a about re-gaining your life. She isn’t in the equation anymore. Play golf if that’s your thing screw it!
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  • farmerfarmer Members Posts: 7,843 ✭✭
    What about the cart? Think about the poor cart, an innocent victim of a toxic relationship.
  • caniac6caniac6 Members Posts: 2,701 ✭✭
    I hope you don't run in to each other with new partners at the course.
  • sheldonjhackersheldonjhacker Members Posts: 3,700 ✭✭
    Respect that you had the nuts to go through with it. Unfortunately, the beer cooler and alignment sticks will need a lifetime of therapy.
  • Railroading13Railroading13 NebraskaMembers Posts: 617 ✭✭
    Finding good playing partners is much much harder than it should be, sad

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  • mshillsmshills T-I-G-E-R-S! Fight Tigers, fight dammit, FIGHT FIGHT! Members Posts: 3,825 ✭✭
    You need to lay the wood to a stranger -- soon. image/biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' />
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  • Hateto3PuttHateto3Putt Smoking Makes You Look Cool! Members Posts: 6,277 ✭✭
    Good for you!

    If everyone he plays with throws him out of their group, maybe he’ll recognize and correct his behavior.

    Doubtful though, as nobody will admit they’re slow.
  • wkuo3wkuo3 RELEASE Members Posts: 3,852 ✭✭
    LOL, did you thought about why you could tolerate the 5 hours round, 6 practice swings........ at the beginning ?

    Sometimes reflecting on the good memory could and would stop the thoughts of separation. Those moments of joy, the sweaty rounds in the hot Summer days and the sharing of drinks afterward........ think about it .
  • CircleC29CircleC29 Members Posts: 831 ✭✭
    Been there. We both agreed that it was over, or so I thought.....

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  • ndlutzndlutz Members Posts: 30 ✭✭
    CircleC29 wrote:

    Been there. We both agreed that it was over, or so I thought.....

    This had me LOL. Nice touch.
  • shoot4parshoot4par Life's A Course 412ClubWRX Posts: 142 ClubWRX
    edited Nov 19, 2018 #15
    It wasn't a yeti, was it? That makes things tougher. I thought Sergio was playing in Europe this week. I live by the mantra that if I took more than two practice swings it was probably a bad shot.
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  • DavePelz4DavePelz4 A golf course in the Chicago area.ClubWRX Posts: 24,309 ClubWRX
    You should go get a new set of clubs. Retail therapy.
  • PZeroPZero Members Posts: 11,391 ✭✭
    Big Ben wrote:

    Don't let a divorce dictate who you are. It's a about re-gaining your life. She isn't in the equation anymore. Play golf if that's your thing screw it!

    You stopped after reading the first sentence.
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  • GHIN n JuiceGHIN n Juice Wingpointe GC...Never Forgotten Members Posts: 1,671 ✭✭
    I believe someone in the relationship thread said it best. Something like, go lay the wood to some strange fast!!! Lol
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  • dlygrissedlygrisse Members Posts: 13,104 ✭✭
    So were you cheating on him?

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  • golfgirlrobingolfgirlrobin Members Posts: 2,305 ✭✭
    I hope it ended well. We tossed a guy this year whom we’d been playing with for over a decade. He made playing golf feel like going to a job you hated.

    We see him on the putting green, now, and he won’t even acknowledge us. We did get all the mutual friends in the split.
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  • MountainGoatMountainGoat Mid-MarylandMembers Posts: 1,659 ✭✭
    This sort of thing is why I stick to one day stands.
  • GolfGuitarsCarsGolfGuitarsCars Members Posts: 447 ✭✭
    Your both free to see other guys now.
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  • 2bGood2bGood Members Posts: 4,974 ✭✭
    edited Nov 18, 2018 #23
    I think you may need to take an honest look at yourself before your next relationship. Why were you attracted to this selfish partner in the first place? Did you think he would change for you? Why did you put his needs first?

    You need to understand why you were attracted to him before you enter into you ext relationship and follow these steps:
    • Care as much about yourself as you do for others
    • Maintain your boundaries
    • Do what you need to do to be you

    ​And never forget the advice they give you before every flight - put your own oxygen mask on before assisting other.

    You be you.
  • BrianMcGBrianMcG Members Posts: 2,260 ✭✭
    Who gets custody of the range finder?
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  • golfandfishinggolfandfishing Members Posts: 3,432 ✭✭
    mshills wrote:

    You need to lay the wood to a stranger -- soon. image/biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' />

  • hybrid25hybrid25 michiganMembers Posts: 1,552 ✭✭
    One of the players in my group at a particular tournament was extremely slow, finicky lining up his putt from every direction and just kept yapping the entire around. So I feel your pain. Me and my normal playing partner we're just about ready to strangle him. I could not play golf with him on a regular basis, I would probably end up in some sort of fight with him or telling him off in a nasty fashion. The best thing to do is what you did just tell him what had to be done.
  • LokiLoki Members Posts: 1,110 ✭✭
    My league partner is glacial andmight have to move on eventually. I was told in the first league night that his preshot used to be 4 minutes. It's under a minute usually now but man, sometimes he is slow. I might be looking at doing this.
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  • Swisstrader98Swisstrader98 Members Posts: 3,518 ✭✭
    I have the same situation but don’t have the heart to look said friend in the face and says it’s over.

    Too close a friend yet too painful to play sometimes. Had a million discussions from trying to be humorous about the situation to a heart to heart over many dinners, but he remains clueless and in denial.

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    Remember what a famous ice hockey coach said about players, "You can't teach fast and you can't fix stupid."
  • llewol007llewol007 4KidsGolfer ClubWRX Posts: 3,357 ClubWRX
    I commend you for taking the time to share a heartfelt breakup that sounded like it needed to be done a long time ago. You my friend need to be a single for a little bit of time and really play the random pairing card. Scary at first but it sounds like you have a lot to offer. Most people dont understand that pairings like a twosome takes a lot of give and take but in your case, it sounded like you give and give and give and give while your playing partner really took you for granted. Try not to ignore the text messages completely but be cordial about it and say you need some space. Maybe two or three rounds, who knows, but a much need break is needed. You need to look out for your own good. 5 hour rounds is about an hour and a half too long depending on who you ask. Surround yourself with solid players and dont take advice from those singles out there telling you that playing alone is awesome. Every single needs a companion. Heck, who is gonna vouch for your hole in one if you dont have a solid partner to back up your story. Good luck and as they say, keep your head up, your drives straight and your balls clean.
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