Was I wrong?

[magnus7319]

9 minutes ago, clinkinfo said:

 

 

That might be the case for a public range somewhere, but at a private club range you are kinda expected to interact with other members, not be an introverted reclusive jerk all the time.  It's part of the social aspect of a club. 

I disagree. If you are on the range to practice then you keep to yourself & people let you be... nothing about that is being a jerk.
 

The range is for practicing it’s not exclusively a social club. Sure people socialize there, but you can socialize at the bar or clubhouse or etc...

 

I’ve been at a private club the better part of 20 years. You can easily tell who is on the range ‘working on things’ & who is there to chat. 
 

The only thing ‘expected’ of me is paying my dues and my monthly minimums. 
 

But in the end: different strikes for different folks. 

[bladehunter]

14 minutes ago, clinkinfo said:

 

 

The problem with that mentality is you can't know the alternative approach wouldn't have worked.  So you have no clue in this situation if it could have been resolved in a friendly way, because no one tried.  Instead, you ended up with 2 stupid reactions escalating a meaningless situation.  Now, if you had TRIED to take the high road, and there was no response, and then you had that reaction....ok, you'd have a point.  But that's not what happened.  Oh, and joking about something does not mean you're killing them with kindness, in fact, many times the joke is actually making fun of what they just did.  

 

And the idea that this guy was a "bully", what the heck are you guys talking about?  He went over to a golf bag on a private range, it's not like he shoved the guy and then went toe to toe trying to force him to let him use the clubs.  Your definition of a "bully" is really messed up.

 

Another thought.  “ worked “.  Here’s the disconnect.   Worked.  What or how do you define “ worked “. What was the solution here you find to be acceptable?  
 

when I spot an idiot , the absolute only “ worked “ or solution id accept is that he does his thing and I do mine. Minus any fake conversation in between.  
 

you’re looking at this as wanting to make peace. Most just want to make space in between.  Good fences make good neighbors.  

Edited March 28, 2021 by bladehunter

[Mitchell]

“Other than your mind, lose something in there?” tends to have great results eliminating that kind of issue if ‘The Look’ doesn’t quickly discourage that type of behavior.

[FlopShotGang]

4 hours ago, RSinSG said:

I was surprised by this comment then I saw you live in Los Angeles. If you ever get to a more rural area you’ll find that people are actually friendly towards each other, even to people they don’t know. Drivers let other drivers merge into traffic with a wave that is returned with a Thank You and a smile. I moved out of SoCal as soon as I could a moved to a much slower paced lifestyle and I could never go back.

 

That doesn’t mean I condone some idiot who has no concept of personal space like the OP experienced, but if someone starts a conversation at the range I’ll chat with them for a little. 

I guess it really depends how someone approaches you and starts a conversation at the range.
 

I’m sorry to hear you moved away from SoCal so that you could let nice people merge into traffic and have them smile and say thank you. But to each his own. (See what I did there to a stranger striking a conversation up with me-much like at the range).

[BIG STU]

8 hours ago, bladehunter said:

The problem with taking the high road sometimes , it’s that the aggressor in the situation doesn’t get to see the error of his ways.  And then the behavior continues.  I firmly believe that bully’s should be hit hard and fast , so as to reform them quickly from their selfish ways.  Killing them with kindness only invites an encore the following day.  

LOL when people see my stuff at the range they are scared to try to hit it as OMG are those really old blades? How do you play with those things????

[Mitchell]

2 hours ago, BIG STU said:

LOL when people see my stuff at the range they are scared to try to hit it as OMG are those really old blades? How do you play with those things????

Some snowflakes are deathly afraid of lead poisoning as well 😂

[nsxguy]

11 hours ago, magnus7319 said:

I disagree. If you are on the range to practice then you keep to yourself & people let you be... nothing about that is being a jerk.

 

You are correct,,,,,,,,,, but nobody criticized the OP for wanting to be left alone.

 

[magnus7319]

6 hours ago, nsxguy said:

 

You are correct,,,,,,,,,, but nobody criticized the OP for wanting to be left alone.

 

my reply wasn’t to the OP 

[Mookieb10]

On 3/22/2021 at 2:19 PM, miamistomp said:

Especially with  virus who wants a random clown touching their stuff !

this. 

[jmevox]

Haha I can't even say i'm surprised.  I worked my butt off my entire life since I was 15.  In college I bought myself a brand new car for about 30k, car must have had about 30 miles on it.

 

This kid I met maybe 3 times in my life, asked me repeatedly in a night if he could drive my car.  Finally I said no and stop asking me or i'm going to get real pissed off.  He had the nerve to call me stingy and selfish.  Let's just say my response was a lot harsher than the OP's.  

[nsxguy]

9 hours ago, magnus7319 said:

my reply wasn’t to the OP 

 

Nobody said it was.

 

But it WAS about the OP and his/a similar situation (wanting to be left alone).

Edited March 29, 2021 by nsxguy

[SwooshLT]

21 minutes ago, nsxguy said:

 

Nobody said it was.

 

But it WAS about the OP and his/a similar situation (wanting to be left alone).

 

Don't think he said anything about wanting to be left alone......he just said the guy was babbling on about equipment not helping and noticed that they were the rare bird sighting of PXG ......adding that the guy was a chop , why would he or anyone let him swing his BRAND new sticks .....so he could bend a shaft while sticking in the ground or anything else? C'mon 

[nsxguy]

1 minute ago, SwooshLT said:

 

Don't think he said anything about wanting to be left alone......he just said the guy was babbling on about equipment not helping and noticed that they were the rare bird sighting of PXG ......adding that the guy was a chop , why would he or anyone let him swing his BRAND new sticks .....so he could bend a shaft while sticking in the ground or anything else? C'mon 

 

This is NOT about the OP not letting the guy hit his new clubs nor wanting to be left alone. 

 

Of course the OP wasn't wrong in not letting the guy hit his clubs.

 

This is about the OP's over the top reaction to the guy.

 

"Nope, nobody but me hits my clubs" would've been more than sufficient,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, IMO,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

[hammersia]

Sorry mate I was only asking jeez 

 

 

[SwooshLT]

25 minutes ago, nsxguy said:

 

This is NOT about the OP not letting the guy hit his new clubs nor wanting to be left alone. 

 

Of course the OP wasn't wrong in not letting the guy hit his clubs.

 

This is about the OP's over the top reaction to the guy.

 

"Nope, nobody but me hits my clubs" would've been more than sufficient,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, IMO,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

 

Don't see an over the top reaction but ......

 

 got a little annoyed he went into my bag, and told him, “No, I’d rather you didn’t, put the club back and please keep away from my bag”. He gave me a look, but before he could say anything I told him, “you just went on for 5 minutes about how new clubs can’t help anyone, and now you’re looking to hit mine?”

Edited March 29, 2021 by SwooshLT

[nsxguy]

2 minutes ago, hammersia said:

Sorry mate I was only asking jeez 

 

 

 

Ummmmm,,,,,, I don't see a post by you in this entire thread.

 

May I ask who you're talking to ?

[nsxguy]

1 minute ago, SwooshLT said:

 

Don't see an over the top reaction but ......

 

So we'll have to agree to disagree.

 

"“No, I’d rather you didn’t, put the club back and please keep away from my bag”. He gave me a look, but before he could say anything I told him, “you just went on for 5 minutes about how new clubs can’t help anyone, and now you’re looking to hit mine?”

[SwooshLT]

23 minutes ago, nsxguy said:

 

So we'll have to agree to disagree.

 

"“No, I’d rather you didn’t, put the club back and please keep away from my bag”. He gave me a look, but before he could say anything I told him, “you just went on for 5 minutes about how new clubs can’t help anyone, and now you’re looking to hit mine?”

Legit question and we don't know the tone used but yeah , it's all water under the bridge! 

[benclab]

On 3/22/2021 at 9:54 AM, john myrbch said:

I’m a left handed player, and was at my club’s driving range recently trying to break in a new set of irons.

There was another LH next to me and he noticed they were PXG. He started going on about new equipment not making anyone better, blah blah.

The guy was an awful golfer, laying sod all over the place. He was playing very old clubs, which really doesn’t matter, but his swing was beyond bad. Anyway, I could sense him watching me hit the new irons, and he strolled back to my bag and pulled out a club, then asked if he could give them a try.

I got a little annoyed he went into my bag, and told him, “No, I’d rather you didn’t, put the club back and please keep away from my bag”. He gave me a look, but before he could say anything I told him, “you just went on for 5 minutes about how new clubs can’t help anyone, and now you’re looking to hit mine?”

The guy stormed away, and I kind of felt bad, but honestly, I didn’t want him hitting my clubs. Two guys hitting near me heard the entire exchange and said I’d done nothing wrong. Still, I’m wondering what you guys think.... was I being a jerk?

Honestly, justified. The 3 G's always apply. Don't let others touch your girl, gun or golf clubs.

[SwooshLT]

33 minutes ago, benclab said:

Honestly, justified. The 3 G's always apply. Don't let others touch your girl, gun or golf clubs.

 

THIS X a Zillion 

[GrandStranded]

On 3/26/2021 at 8:21 AM, MtlJeff said:

This is probably the first time in 10+ years that an OP has come here and told a story , and asked if what he did was wrong....and got 100% support. Literally 100%

 

I'm actually proud of all of us here. 

You’re welcome. 😜

I’m glad I was able to bring us all closer together. 

[mickw]

3 hours ago, benclab said:

Honestly, justified. The 3 G's always apply. Don't let others touch your girl, gun or golf clubs.

4 G's actually...girl, gun, golf clubs, and grill.

[Valtiel]

13 hours ago, nsxguy said:

 

Ummmmm,,,,,, I don't see a post by you in this entire thread.

 

May I ask who you're talking to ?

He was pretending to be the guy the OP was talking about I think. 😛

As for the OP, i'll definitely jump in on the support train and say you did nothing wrong. Given the dudes unsolicited rant, the ONLY way he could have approached you appropriately was apologizing for the rant (or at least acknowledging its rudeness) then kindly asking if he could try a club before even coming close to touching it. Anything short of that given the context was cruisin' for a bruisin'. 😅

[BIG STU]

On 3/28/2021 at 11:54 AM, Mitchell said:

“Other than your mind, lose something in there?” tends to have great results eliminating that kind of issue if ‘The Look’ doesn’t quickly discourage that type of behavior.

They say on the rare occasion when I give the look it works---- My wife dubbed it the ice cold death stare---- Which her and most folks say is chilling because as a norm I am a joyful and cutting up type of guy and it is very unusual for me to get that mad. 

[Jack Pearsall]

Geez, some of you are pretty uptight on the range. 

JP finds golfers are pretty sociable sorts, generally, but the pr*ckliness herein is astounding. "Dont make eye contact"? Really?
 

Golf is a game, not an incursion. 

90% of players are pretty reasonable, the other 10% are from Los Angeles.

Edited March 30, 2021 by Jack Pearsall

[mizuno player]

You absolutely were not wrong. If that happened to me I'm not sure I would have been very nice to that person. In fact I know I would not have been nice. To me that's just disrespectful and rude. 

[Tufph]

Wow, just read this thread. Got shivers from thinking about a hack touching my clubs.

My daughter had a similar incident like this but with her friend. Both scratch golfers. Friend asks to hit her driver, daughter says ok, daughter comes home with a sky mark on her 2 week old driver. 

That hurted my heart and wasn't even my driver - my money but but not my club.

 

If a scratch golfer can make sky mark a hack might break something. (((Shivers)))

Edited March 31, 2021 by Tufph

[billybaroo]

On 3/22/2021 at 12:54 PM, john myrbch said:

There was another LH next to me and he noticed they were PXG.

How do you know he noticed the brand? Might have just thought they were some DIY or a DTC no-name brand, or just some a club different than he had.

 

I was good with everything until you said "...keep away from my bag."  That's where you went off the nice train into DB-ville.

[GrandStranded]

1 hour ago, billybaroo said:

How do you know he noticed the brand? Might have just thought they were some DIY or a DTC no-name brand, or just some a club different than he had.

 

I was good with everything until you said "...keep away from my bag."  That's where you went off the nice train into DB-ville.

If you go back and read my op again, you’ll see I said the person next to me noticed I had PXG 0211’s in my bag and he asked me about their DTC policy with them, and how it worked out for me.

The other person overheard us, and that is when he  started with  his “you can’t buy a game” comments.

[billybaroo]

1 hour ago, john myrbch said:

If you go back and read my op again, you’ll see I said the person next to me noticed I had PXG 0211’s in my bag and he asked me about their DTC policy with them, and how it worked out for me.

The other person overheard us, and that is when he  started with  his “you can’t buy a game” comments.

Ummm, re-read your original post. Unless you edited that out, I see nothing about DTC policy conversation.