That one guy you HATE playing with...

[willie991]

1 hour ago, Double Mocha Man said:

 

Where do people like these last two guys come from???

Some folks just need to be better... much better... than anyone else.  Usually, it seems to be associated with the lack of self-confidence.  The gentleman of which I spoke is probably about 5' 8" and weighs close to 300 pounds.  Guessing always been aware of his weight and feels he needs to make up for it with his "brilliance".  

 

It can bleed over into family.  In the early 2000's, had a number of regional sales managers call on me.  One of them, a lady, saw my golf bag in the back corner of my office.  Asked if I played golf.  Told her between work and family, didn't have the time to play I would have liked.  She said her husband played, but only had played a few times.  I asked if he, too, had trouble finding time.  She "explained"... "No.  He's very athletic.  Bought a set of clubs and went out about three or four times.  Every time he went out, he shot par or better.  Said there was no challenge, so sold the clubs."  With a story like that, I made certain our firm did not trust anything she told us about the process equipment she was pedaling!!!  

 

I never could understand having to "out brag" everyone in the room.  Worked hard to support my family.  A beautiful and patient blonde lady has put up with me for the 57 years of marriage we'll celebrate this December.  The kids are all doing well.  We'll never be rich or famous, but sleep well at night.  Life is good in this world of boringness!    :>)

[Double Mocha Man]

1 hour ago, willie991 said:

She "explained"... "No.  He's very athletic.  Bought a set of clubs and went out about three or four times.  Every time he went out, he shot par or better. 

 

Maybe, just maybe, she doesn't play golf and never played with her husband.  Trust me, he never shot par... unless par is 100.  She was benevolently gullible.  Trust, but verify.

[No_Catchy_Nickname]

29 minutes ago, Double Mocha Man said:

 

Maybe, just maybe, she doesn't play golf and never played with her husband.  Trust me, he never shot par... unless par is 100.  She was benevolently gullible.  Trust, but verify.

 

Or she was married to Kim Jong Il.

[AlohaPineapple]

20 hours ago, Double Mocha Man said:

 

Where do people like these last two guys come from???

sales or politics 😆

[RayGorman]

Angry guy... who has no reason to lose it because he's not good enough to be angry at it. No practice, AT ALL- if and when he DOES 'practice' at the range, it's machine gun drivers with his "aim 40 yards left hoping it only goes 20 yards into the right rough" method.

 

Dilly-dally story teller who has no concept that there are 143 other folks out there trying to get done in a reasonable time.

 

Rabbit guy- who like above guy, doesn't care that there are 143 others on pace, HE wants to finish in 2 hours, so damn the torpedoes and trying to bully his way through by hitting up on groups ahead.

 

 

[Mrgreen36]

I just hate playing with other people. 😆 

[blades_are_life]

On 5/8/2023 at 2:56 AM, kmbean said:

My ex-FIL.  He was very successful in business and was considered the best golfer in his extended family before I entered the picture.  Just a very pompous, rude person who steamrolled his way over people in life with no concern for the well being of others.  I couldn’t stand being around the guy but had to endure many rounds of golf with him.  It was amusing proving to him time and time again he’s not the best at everything as he previously believed.

It is regrettable how commonly these two things are found together.

Edited June 13, 2023 by blades_are_life

[ae1985]

My friend and league partner: "DUDE I JUST HIT THAT HYBRID 210 YARDS!"

Me: Well, it's 70 yards off the fairway so who cares.

[Double Mocha Man]

58 minutes ago, ae1985 said:

My friend and league partner: "DUDE I JUST HIT THAT HYBRID 210 YARDS!"

Me: Well, it's 70 yards off the fairway so who cares.

 

My friend and league partner: "DUDE I JUST HIT THAT HYBRID 210 YARDS!"

Me: Get a room.  😁

[Kacy]

1. Angry guy - ruins the vibe for everyone 

 

2. Slow guy - 99.9% of golfers are not good enough to play slow

[mark174ace]

On 6/11/2023 at 2:39 PM, Double Mocha Man said:

 

Where do people like these last two guys come from???

 

The sad part is with the narcissism becoming so prevalent in our society it is only going to get worse in everyday life not just the golf course. I am 50 and I have been paired up in the last 3-4 years with so many younger dudes who openly admit they only care about how far the ball goes and not their score. Very indicative of our society today..egos high and the bar set low.

[elwhippy]

Mr Never Happy. Was drawn with this guy a fortnight ago. The third player withdrew so I was left to suffer. Lost a ball on first, didn't go back to play another and then whined the whole round. Everything was wrong. Tees, bunkers, rakes, number of leaves on the trees. Purgatory. I will withdraw if I see their name in the same tee time. 

[blades_are_life]

11 hours ago, mark174ace said:

 

The sad part is with the narcissism becoming so prevalent in our society it is only going to get worse in everyday life not just the golf course. I am 50 and I have been paired up in the last 3-4 years with so many younger dudes who openly admit they only care about how far the ball goes and not their score. Very indicative of our society today..egos high and the bar set low.

You say this is prevalent now which is surely true but my impression (as non-narcissistic) young is that this was also a defining cultural characteristic of the 80s.

[willie991]

A little different take.  We are a group of old codgers.  Oldest in his early 80's.  Youngest just turned 70.  We've played golf together for over 10 years.  We're known as the NASCAR golf group.  First tee time every day.  There is no two or three in carts that can catch if we're playing 4 or 5.  If more than 5 show up, we split into smaller groups.  Often, 4 of us will play 18 holes in just over 2 hours.

 

We have to get old, but we don't have to grow up.  It's a fun group.  Yet, there have been those we "hate to play with".  Why?  One former member played for almost a year after being diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer.  During chemo and during his last month on Earth, he still would show up, ride with us, and at least chip and putt.  We were so proud of him, but hated seeing him become a shadow of what he had been.  Another is almost exactly one year younger than I am.  He and I have played golf together for 23 years!!  His mind is failing.  His wife won't let him drive at night because he gets confused.  We have to watch or he'll hit someone else's ball, thinking it's his.  The progression has been slow, but is becoming really noticeable.  Just last week, he caught up with us on the 4th hole.  "When did tee times go to 7:00?"  Well, they had been at 7 for at least a month and he had played with us quite a few of those days at 7:00.  We "hate" seeing a once sharp mind begin the descent into dementia.  

 

Yes, we "hate" playing with those who make us all wonder when the effects of either physical maladies or mental illness will take the game we love from us.  Of course, we love these guys!!!  We all have a bond brought by the ability to enjoy golf for so many rounds together.  Golf has brought us together.  Age will tear us apart, one by one.  I hate that!!!!

[rustyneversleeps]

I play as a single a lot and can get along with almost everyone....last night was playing solo and got off alone because a tee time didn't show up. Was playing behind a group of four, but taking my time and enjoying the day. Nobody behind me. 

Wasn't striking the ball well but was +1 after 3 and was trying to work on a few things. Get off of the green on #3 and a single zooms up babbling all over the place...said he crushed his drive and his ball has to be under my cart or somewhere (my cart was in the middle of the fairway out in front of the green). I told him I didn't see or hear anything. He drives all over fairway and around creek and zooms back up and asked if I wanted to play with him. I told him no worries and met him at the tee box. 

The next 6 holes were some of the most brutal of my life...guy literally wouldnt stop talking, was talking in his backswing and rambling on about everything under the sun. In his rambles he mentioned he worked groundcrew somewhere and was trying to tell me about lips on the cups and how to angle them, etc...unreal. Point is he wasn't a new golfer. Multiple times I'd be like "allright dude you ready to putt?" or "fairway is wide open you can go ahead and tee off" in the middle of one of his sentences to try to redirect him.  

I engaged a little and ignored a lot and was finally about to say something to him (I am not shy about saying something if its ethics or etiquette and out of line)  but tried to take an approach to use this as an opportunity to work on my mental game. It didnt work hahahahaha

 

I almost drove straight to my truck from the 5th tee, but stuck it out and finished 9. Couldn't get out of there fast enough. 

[Double Mocha Man]

1 hour ago, rustyneversleeps said:

I play as a single a lot and can get along with almost everyone....last night was playing solo and got off alone because a tee time didn't show up. Was playing behind a group of four, but taking my time and enjoying the day. Nobody behind me. 

Wasn't striking the ball well but was +1 after 3 and was trying to work on a few things. Get off of the green on #3 and a single zooms up babbling all over the place...said he crushed his drive and his ball has to be under my cart or somewhere (my cart was in the middle of the fairway out in front of the green). I told him I didn't see or hear anything. He drives all over fairway and around creek and zooms back up and asked if I wanted to play with him. I told him no worries and met him at the tee box. 

The next 6 holes were some of the most brutal of my life...guy literally wouldnt stop talking, was talking in his backswing and rambling on about everything under the sun. In his rambles he mentioned he worked groundcrew somewhere and was trying to tell me about lips on the cups and how to angle them, etc...unreal. Point is he wasn't a new golfer. Multiple times I'd be like "allright dude you ready to putt?" or "fairway is wide open you can go ahead and tee off" in the middle of one of his sentences to try to redirect him.  

I engaged a little and ignored a lot and was finally about to say something to him (I am not shy about saying something if its ethics or etiquette and out of line)  but tried to take an approach to use this as an opportunity to work on my mental game. It didnt work hahahahaha

 

I almost drove straight to my truck from the 5th tee, but stuck it out and finished 9. Couldn't get out of there fast enough. 

 

I think your new friend wants you to play with him again on Friday... 😁

[kekoa]

I refuse to play with anyone who does the following:

- Talks too much sh*t

- Doesn't pay their debts

- Plays LCP in the dead of Summer

 

 

[Mrgreen36]

23 hours ago, blades_are_life said:

You say this is prevalent now which is surely true but my impression (as non-narcissistic) young is that this was also a defining cultural characteristic of the 80s.

 

Those damn kids. 

[MGMiller]

Paired with "that guy" today... Struts around like a stud even though his untucked polo could also be a mini dress. Comments on every swing you make regardless if it was brilliant or crap. Talks about his buddies game behind his back,  "he's working with him to get him better" as he shoot dbl boogie after dbl...

[PedronNiall]

Segue to hated course-adjacent behavior, but people who hang around 4 or 8 deep in the parking lot when the course is packed and they know people are trying to get a parking spot and enjoy their round as well. If you want to hang out forever after your round join a CC or play on slower days. Respect that those playing after you want to get out there just as much as you did.

 

Also, the tools who throw their half-smoked cigars by the practice greens. I know it's the same ******* every time and you're going to catch hell from me the day I happen to see it go down. At one of my courses it's some guy who plays at the butt crack of dawn cause I've gotten out pretty early and there it was, already waiting to irritate me.

 

On course, there's not much that bothers me as I can usually tune into my own game and have no issue. The only thing that gets me is wildly slow play yet no awareness to wave others through or speed up to a reasonable pace. Luckily most of the courses I go to have active marshals during peak hours along with warnings via the media screen on the cart, but in the evenings it's not unusual to just have to pick up and go around a group when I'm trying to get a few in before dark.

[Haroputt]

paired up with an annoying golfer who kepted to herself   Not really wanting to engage which was okay 

But when I was on the green and missed my initial putt and I was 3-4 foot away I would prefer to mark my ball but she kept insisted that I putt out

Did not like the way she spoke to me like that as I have a right to mark my ball 

 

[JJFWebster]

I can enjoy golf with just about every personality type but I met a guy last year who was intolerable.

 

Second or third tee box I asked him how long he'd been at the club, he responded in a $ amount with a bizarre smug look on his face. It was incredibly odd. Then at the green I putt out and he says to me, "at least you're not one of those idiots with a giant putter grip." He went on for the entirety of the next hole explaining why large putter grips were the absolute worst. (I did not engage and did not care.) After he was done ragging on large putter grips he proceeded onto "idiot YouTubers" and what he was "trying to get through to the golf community". The guy talked about YouTubers and swing technique for 6 - 7 holes and then came in with unsolicited swing advice. I played contrarian to try to shut him up but he just doubled down. I had to ignore him completely to get him to shut up. On 10 the guy melted down because of a sculled approach shot. His ball wasn't even in trouble but he picked it up from ~60 yards out, didn't say anything, and walked to the next tee. The rest of us played out and came up the tee box to this guy still muttering to himself. Despite never losing a ball, he spent the remaining 8 holes searching for them constantly. He was literally thrashing around in the trees and long grass, immediately next to us, while we played our shots. He picked up another 3 or 4 times after bad shots that were completely recoverable for par. 

 

If I ever see him on one of my times again, I'll move. He's not even that bad of a player but there are definitely some mental issues going on there.

[Treats]

2 hours ago, Haroputt said:

paired up with an annoying golfer who kepted to herself   Not really wanting to engage which was okay 

But when I was on the green and missed my initial putt and I was 3-4 foot away I would prefer to mark my ball but she kept insisted that I putt out

Did not like the way she spoke to me like that as I have a right to mark my ball 

 

Just out of curiousity.....was her name, KAREN?🤣

 

[PedronNiall]

 

[Warrick]

Anyone who feels the need to talk incessantly for 18 holes

[lchang]

30 seconds after meeting a single we're paired up with, I smother-hook my tee shot into the trees.  Him:  "You got out in front of that one.  You tried to kill it."

 

I'm thinking, WTF?

 

It actually didn't get better from there.  Talking while people were putting.  Congratulating another guy on a great shot even though he'd thinned it badly into an impossible situation well behind the green.  Asking me what club I'm hitting after I'd addressed my ball on a par-3.  After I skulled a downhill chip into the water, "You can't go long on that chip shot."  After I completely duffed a fairway bunker shot, "Nice out!!"

[PersimmonEra]

Any smuck playing music.

[byoshio82]

Speak up to your buddies you enjoy playing with or to the guy who drives you nuts. I did this with one of our buddies who NOBODY wants to play with and it helped a bit but ultimately I just decided to play with people I enjoy playing with as I’m in the same boat as you and have limited time to play. Although my 4 year old is obsessed with golf so more rounds are going to come at some point down the road. 

[MountainKing]

1) Small Talkers drive me nuts.  I don't care about the weather, last nights game, where you live, what you do for a living, if you're married or not, how often you play the course were on, etc.  Not only do I not care about it, but I doubt you do as well.  If there's not something of substance to discuss, I'mI perfectly comfortable with silence,  don't make me talk because you aren't.  If we somehow hit it off and become friends, I'll learn most of that stuff about you in time anyway.

 

2) Guys that search endlessly for lost balls and then grind over a 3 footer for their 10th snowman on the day.  If you're losing balls every hole, you're not ready for the course, and for the sanity of all the people around you once you get to double par pick the ball up. 

 

3) Slow golfers, just because you hate your wife, doesn't mean I hate mine and want to be out there all day.

 

4) Angry golfers, we're paying a lot of money to be out there.  It's fine to not like a shot but get over it so you can at least pull off your next one.  We pay a lot of money to be out there, you'll have some good days, you'll have some bad days.  At the end of the day this isn't how we're making our living, nor does it define us as people so why stress over the bad shots.

 

 

Edited July 2, 2023 by MountainKing

[Double Mocha Man]

42 minutes ago, MountainKing said:

1) Small Talkers drive me nuts.  I don't care about the weather, last nights game, where you live, what you do for a living, if you're married or not, how often you play the course were on, etc.  Not only do I not care about it, but I doubt you do as well.  If there's not something of substance to discuss, I'mI perfectly comfortable with silence...

 

Okay, next time you and I tee it up we'll talk politics...