Why do so many kids stop playing when they start high school

[Nard_S]

 

Sports is a metaphor, a training ground for greater life skills. It's supposed to be fun & a place where the outcome is really not consequential. We have forgotten that. We forget to tell the kid, "go have fun" and to truly mean it.

 

 

[leezer99]

10 hours ago, RainShadow said:

Back when I was in HS I got "disinterested" in golf because it A: wasn't cool, B: I loved surfing glassy waves in the morning, not watching said pumping glass from the golf course on the cliff ( Sand Piper, Montecito CC ), C : I liked to party and the only rudder I had was my p****......

 I thinks a lot of kids don't continue in the game because of the cost. The little bit I did play in my late teens through early 20's , my dad payed my green fees. I always had a set of serviceable clubs. I didn't start paying for golf much until I was about 30 and had a job that I made OK money at.

 

Gaucho checking in... I feel this comment deeply.

[leezer99]

8 hours ago, Nard_S said:

 

Sports is a metaphor, a training ground for greater life skills. It's supposed to be fun & a place where the outcome is really not consequential. We have forgotten that. We forget to tell the kid, "go have fun" and to truly mean it.

 

 

 

Love seeing 12 year olds 'working' on their swing on social media... hate to tell you pops but it ain't work unless you're getting paid.

[BFD3]

14 hours ago, BloctonGolf11 said:

…Saw a plus cap sophomore who was a legit D1 talent quit to basically stick it to his dad. 

My daughter’s swing instructor is not one to blow smoke and he has coached several players that have gone on to play in college. He has been telling me for a couple years that she can play Div 1 golf if she sticks with it. She likes golf a lot but she already know she doesn’t love it enough to put the time in. She’s not as good, yet, at lacrosse but loves it and the friendships she makes playing WITH other girls rather than against them is much more appealing to her.

[BFD3]

14 hours ago, BloctonGolf11 said:

 

Edited December 14, 2021 by BFD3

[BFD3]

14 hours ago, BloctonGolf11 said:

 

Edited December 14, 2021 by BFD3

[mcounci2]

On 12/11/2021 at 3:54 PM, golfortennis said:

 

But what if you had the opportunity to play with a CEO?

 

Then I would especially not want to play.  CEO's are generally pretty terrible people to be around.

[mcounci2]

Specialization.  When you hit HS, no matter what you're doing, you quit doing everything you're not good at.  It takes more time/money/dedication to be good at something in HS.  How many kids are three sport athletes anymore?  Even when I was in HS in the mid-2000's we were pressured to only do one sport in order to do all of that sport's off-season training programs.  None of our golfers played any other sport, and only a couple guys even crossed between football and basketball/wrestling/track.  Baseball was it's own little clique as well.

[leezer99]

53 minutes ago, mcounci2 said:

Specialization.  When you hit HS, no matter what you're doing, you quit doing everything you're not good at.  It takes more time/money/dedication to be good at something in HS.  How many kids are three sport athletes anymore?  Even when I was in HS in the mid-2000's we were pressured to only do one sport in order to do all of that sport's off-season training programs.  None of our golfers played any other sport, and only a couple guys even crossed between football and basketball/wrestling/track.  Baseball was it's own little clique as well.

Here in California every sport goes year round. There just aren’t any breaks per se unless forced by the parents.

[Nard_S]

14 hours ago, leezer99 said:

hate to tell you pops

"pops", you're not a dad that's for sure. My kid is currently playing D2 basketball.  So I've been in all that.

[tocino]

I'm hoping to experience this issue in the next couple of years. My two oldest kids didn't seem as interested in it and went in another direction for high school sports (basketball and badminton) and my youngest looks like he wants to get into baseball. Thankfully my third child, bless her heart seems to really like golf so i started her with lessons a couple months ago. i never force sports on any of my kids, if they like it and want to try out i'm all for it, my only caveat is you can't quit once you start. At least finish the season/year and go from there after.

 

So, i hope #3 plays golf in highschool but if she doesn't that's fine. As long as she has fun while playing i'll always encourage her. i mean really my main goal for trying get them into golf was I just wanted to be able to play with at least one of my them regularly/semi-regularly when they're older

[TripleBogeysrbetter]

On 12/13/2021 at 11:10 AM, tiger1873 said:

 

My guess is the kid never really like golf to begin with.  I get having to take time off but if you love something you just don't quit.  They are quitting because they suddenly figure out they can do what they want.

 

Both of my golfers take time off from golf.  I think it really depends on the kid.  My son has been doing it since freshman year of high school.  He is on break from college and last played in early november.  He says its nice to focus on other things as well.  You can't be golf 100%.  I don't think that means the kids hate golf.

[tiger1873]

4 minutes ago, TripleBogeysrbetter said:

Both of my golfers take time off from golf.  I think it really depends on the kid.  My son has been doing it since freshman year of high school.  He is on break from college and last played in early november.  He says its nice to focus on other things as well.  You can't be golf 100%.  I don't think that means the kids hate golf.

 

I  Didn't mean short time off like you said.  I was referring to kids who play up until college and then never play golf again. Not even for fun on the side.

 

If you love something you will find a way to play. 

[golfortennis]

2 hours ago, mcounci2 said:

 

Then I would especially not want to play.  CEO's are generally pretty terrible people to be around.

 

Rookies....

[leezer99]

1 hour ago, Nard_S said:

"pops", you're not a dad that's for sure. My kid is currently playing D2 basketball.  So I've been in all that.

 

My son and daughter would disagree.

[Nard_S]

1 hour ago, leezer99 said:

 

My son and daughter would disagree.

"pops" is juvenile & childish.  

[heavy_hitter]

16 hours ago, Nard_S said:

"pops" is juvenile & childish.  

Corn Pop was a bad dude.

[MB19]

17 hours ago, Nard_S said:

"pops" is juvenile & childish.  

Is this your first day on the internet?

[Nard_S]

19 minutes ago, MB19 said:

Is this your first day on the internet?

 My kid can call me "Pops". Guess what, he's an 18 year old college freshmen. He's not only a boy, he's my kid. Coming from a random keyboard jockey, it somehow does not come across quite the same. I would not call anyone that i did not know "pops". It borders on patronizing and disrespectful. It's tone deaf at best.

 

 

[leezer99]

23 minutes ago, Nard_S said:

 My kid can call me "Pops". Guess what, he's an 18 year old college freshmen. He's not only a boy, he's my kid. Coming from a random keyboard jockey, it somehow does not come across quite the same. I would not call anyone that i did not know "pops". It borders on patronizing and disrespectful. It's tone deaf at best.

 

 

 

Ok Ding Dong.

[Nard_S]

3 minutes ago, leezer99 said:

 

Ok Ding Dong.

Eat me.

[leezer99]

Just now, Nard_S said:

Eat me.

 

Now you're just starting to sound like your wife.

[RmoorePE]

I have called people "pops" in both the demeaning sense and as an honorary. I think my daughters call me that in the demeaning sense, at least that is the vibe I get. Hard to tell, because I'm "so out of touch, pops."

 

Back on topic. I too never force my kids to play a sport. I can tell when my kid is not into it, and if they are not going to try I don't like to watch them. I force them to go to school, get good grades, visit their grandparents, have dinner with the family, etc, but sports, no way.

 

 

[kekoa]

On 12/15/2021 at 7:47 AM, leezer99 said:

 

Now you're just starting to sound like your wife.

Wow!!!   🍿

[Nard_S]

11 hours ago, kekoa said:

Wow!!!   🍿

 

 

Edited December 17, 2021 by Nard_S

[Gsea]

[leezer99]

56 minutes ago, Gsea said:

 

I can't make it out fully but that sure looks like a custom number ball starting with 6...  

[tiger1873]

To get back on topic. How many kids get jobs and rather make money then play golf? If you kid is marginal at golf would you tell them they need to play golf.

 

Personally I am not sure just working somewhere is always a good thing unless you have a future.  But I do know more than a few parents who insist that their kids learn to work at a job. 

[golfortennis]

On 12/15/2021 at 11:56 AM, RmoorePE said:

I have called people "pops" in both the demeaning sense and as an honorary. I think my daughters call me that in the demeaning sense, at least that is the vibe I get. Hard to tell, because I'm "so out of touch, pops."

 

Back on topic. I too never force my kids to play a sport. I can tell when my kid is not into it, and if they are not going to try I don't like to watch them. I force them to go to school, get good grades, visit their grandparents, have dinner with the family, etc, but sports, no way.

 

 

 

The only forcing I ever got was that if I signed up to play on a team, I had to see the season through cause I made a commitment to the other guys.  Once the season was over I didn't have to do it again the next year, but I had to honor my commitment.

[BFD3]

8 hours ago, tiger1873 said:

To get back on topic. How many kids get jobs and rather make money then play golf? If you kid is marginal at golf would you tell them they need to play golf.

 

Personally I am not sure just working somewhere is always a good thing unless you have a future.  But I do know more than a few parents who insist that their kids learn to work at a job. 

Some parents insist their kids work because they need the money.